The drastic increase in suicides recently is indicative of a previously unseen phenomenon. We notice crowds in front of psychiatric clinics. We see people looking healthy apparently but crying of unseen pains and unbearable psychological conditions. Wine becomes temporary Elixir of Life.
What is the reason behind this all?
Let’s have a closer look at the root causes.
Since the time of Adam & Eve, the basic foundation of life had been stable family and strong faith in the Al-mighty. People were tied with each other in families and tribes. Their laughed and cried together. Their happiness and sorrows were shared with each other. The institution of marriage was the basic foundation for the unity of men and women, and growing family.
Same way, the faith in the Al-mighty had made them so strong that they fought the natural calamities, dreadful species and life-long diseases bravely. Against their faith, destiny made the way.
In the modern society, the foundation of marriage and family is shaken from the roots. This is taken as an obstacle in the way of development and pursuing higher goals. People prefer to stay alone in order to remove intervention, increase freedom, lighten responsibility and strengthen the ability to pursue goals vehemently. This way, they get success materialistically. But when they reach to the height, or the fame is gone and the time has showed its ugly face, they have none to back them. They are alone. They have nobody to share with. They have nobody to believe in. They find no tree to stand beneath and take rest. They find no shoulder to put their head on and cry, if they want to cry. They beg for a helping hand, but with no avail.
Surveys have showed that those supported by their families, live longer and are less prone to the feelings of loneliness.
This is human nature to be in groups, groups of people whom they love, whom they believe and whom they think they are their own people.
The faith works as energy booster, last hope when there is no hope, strongest support in time of need, a master pain killer when whole body is aching. Submit everything to the Al-mighty, breath cool and enjoy long sleep. The faith is the most experimented energy provider. It will stabilize your heart beat and offer mental piece. The faith in the Al-mighty has no equal in the world.
On the other hand, the nature of success is very complicated. Its staircase is un-ending. A person reaching to one level, always looks for the next. And each level has its own complications, problems, pressures and tensions. On the pathway of success, while climbing upwards, we need support on all mental and spiritual fronts. We need someone to neutralize these pressures, to pave the way ahead, to prepare the ground and take us up to the next level safely. The lack of this support unfolds various troubles.
When a person is supported by his family and faith, he puts each step with confidence, knowing that if something wrong happens, he has someone to support him and straighten his back.
After climbing many stairs of success, you may have to come down. People will laugh and mock at you. Here again, you need people who are your own, who love your failure as they loved your success. Where will you find these people? You can’t buy them from market, for sure, even if you have billions.
In countries where we see successful people, still unmarried and believing in none, we have to have a re-look and peep into their personal lives. We will see their personal lives are devastated. They are empty from inside. They cry when alone. And sometimes, loneliness reaches to the point they commit suicide or fall prey to devastating pills and drugs. Examples are enormously found in newspapers.
Thus, the family and faith are the most important foundation stones for your success. Keep in touch with your base and fly high. You may get deep sleep on a broken cot, but what will you do if you can’t get a light sleep on your American mattress in air-conditioned room. The last night’s bread may kill your hunger, but what will you do if you can’t digest pizza and pastas. After all, if your heart and mind are in peace, you are happy. If you are not happy from inside, a million may not be able to give you a pale smile.
Suhaib Nadvi
